We all need to motivate ourselves to do something. Some things are easy to do, some, at first glance, are unachievable. If somethings seems like that is there a real obstruction or just an excuse not to do something? I’ve asked my son: if you decide that you want to be an astronaut and go to the Moon, what are your excuses and what are real obstructions? Your age? Height? Where you live? Lack of knowledge? Or the fact that you don’t have a space ship? After a while my son said: the fact that I don’t have a space ship. Well done my boy! Only the fact that you don’t have a space ship prevents you from traveling to the Moon in the future. The rest is in your hands and depends on you. If you really want to be an astronaut, you can! But there are two conditions that you need to fulfil: first is your strong confidence. Second is your belief, the fact that you give credence to your goal. That’s it. You will fail in your life not once and not twice. What really matters is how you will treat your failure and what lesson you will learn. Most people are not even trying, some are giving up after their first attempt, but very few are motivated to carry on until they reach their goal.
As Brian Tracy said: “The history of human race is the history of ordinary people who have overcome their fears and accomplished extraordinary things”. But somehow they are strong enough to motivate themselves to do this. Constantly seek for the motivation my son. Remember your failures but also remember your moments of glory when you managed to do this little step that leads you to your big goal.
When you will get a bit older quite often you’ll be doing lists of your Top 5’s or Top 10’s of animals, favorite friends, most beautiful girls, beloved cars and so one. Don’t forget to do your Top 10 list of the greatest achievements in your life so far and try to remember how you felt when you achieved them. This will help you to reach for more… And please: repeat this exercise quite often…
My son recently asked me why some people are fortunate in life and some not. How is it possible that some are very rich and some are poor? – he continued. It was quite unusual question for my little fella and it got me thinking. After a while I replied: what you see is just the tip of the iceberg. You don’t know and can’t say what happened in each person’s life. How many hours of hard work, studying and how persistent this “most fortunate” person was to get where he or she is now. On the other hand those less fortunate probably were not as keen to gather knowledge, think about their future and purpose in life. Another thing are clear goals in life. One sets his goal very early and follows his path to accomplish his own mission. Others are not really interested in setting goals for themselves and just carry on with their day to day life. Those “most fortunate” realised that to get to the point in which they’ve never been they need to learn things that they’ve never knew and become someone that they’ve never been.
Everything counts. Every step, every book, every challenge, every sacrifice leads them to their goal. They are not afraid of doing something that they never done before – everything is hard before you learn how to do it. And you can learn basically everything – it is just a matter of time you are willing to sacrifice to get this knowledge or skill. But main difference between unfortunate and fortunate people is that the latter are acting. When they have an idea, see the opportunity – they just act! They know that to get somewhere they need to start doing things – as Confucius said: “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. Others are buying lottery tickets and go home to watch TV.
When you see boxer fighting and winning World Champion title you usually don’t think about how long it took him to be as good as he is now. You might think that he was born like that. This is very far away from the truth. Thousands of hours of training, persistence, spirit and clear goal – that’s the secret of winning. And your life, my son, is exactly the same. You can’t rely on luck and you can’t blame circumstances or other people for your failures. You are your own boss and whatever happens in your life depends on your acting, mindset and will to win. You just need to believe in yourself.
Henry Ford once said: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you are right”. Always think that you can, my son.
My message to all of you before TMBC Elections
I wish you joy. I wish you laughter.
But most of all, I wish you a life full of love because a life devoid of love
is not a life at all but a mere existence.
This Easter, I’m wishing you to have peaceful heart and peaceful mind.
May you realize all of your aspirations and hopes.
Bartosz with family
Support from MP Tom Tugendhat
Matthew Scott, Kent Police and Crime Commissioner (PCC)
Sue Murray, Mayor of TMBC (2009-2011)
Recommendation from Councillor Nicolas Heslop, Leader of TMBC
Building local awareness
My survey among Borough Green and Long Mill Ward community showed that over 70% of respondents know very little about current tasks and projects undertaken by Tonbridge and Malling Borough Council and local politicians. Lack of access to information seems to be a big problem. I am ready to deal with this issue and become a link between TMBC and the local community, providing regular information on the planned activities and, if possible, conducting local consultations with residents. Access to current and reliable data is an important factor in building local awareness.
Tonbridge & Malling Borough Council Election of Borough Councillors for Borough Green and Long Mill Ward
Interview with Matthew Scott – Kent’s Police and Crime Commissioner
Our safety, antisocial behaviour and level of crime are probably one of our main concerns. I’ve asked Matthew Scott – Kent’s Police and Crime Commissioner (PCC) about cybercrime and tasks for Kent Police in the nearest future.
What would be your best and simple advice to avoid cybercrime?
When we do online shopping we need to be sure that this particular website is secure by checking its security certificate (address should start with https:// or we should see symbol of green padlock). We also need to know with who we are dealing with for example by checking online reviews about this business or check Action Fraud to see if there is any scam activity attached to it.
Kent Police response has improved. We now have dedicated officers who are investigating cybercrime and also helping businesses and residents avoid becoming victims.
What are policing priorities for Kent in 2019?
In 2019 we have big recruitment campaign to increase police numbers, so by January next year there will be 450 more officers compared to 2016 when I was elected and that’s the difference people will see on the streets. What we are starting to see is the police having more capacity to be on the streets investigating crime, preventing crime from happening in the first place and engaging with local communities. We are keeping all of our PCSO’s (there is 300 of them) and we are backing schemes like the Police Cadets to keep young people away from gangs and criminality. We are working really hard to fight crime and antisocial behaviour, tackle abuse, exploitation and violence. We are also dealing with those few gangs coming down from London trying to cause problems within our local community and I hope that extra numbers of officers will help address that.
Are there any plans for new community safety projects?
There are some initiatives coming over the course of the next year. We are expanding Police Cadets program and I will be looking for the ways in which we can increase the amount of talks we are doing in schools for young people to make sure that they are aware of some of the risks that there are out there today. Kent is a safe place to live, work and visit but we need to make sure that we are educating our children.
Operation BROCK on M20
From Monday (25 March) the M20 contraflow will be in effect from north of Junction 8 (for Maidstone) to Junction 9 at Ashford. Lorries heading for mainland Europe will be routed down the coastbound carriageway, with a 30mph speed limit in place. All other traffic will be directed onto the London-bound carriageway, with two lanes in each direction operating at 50mph. The deployment will help to demonstrate Kent’s preparedness for disruption and allow the contraflow to be in place for any traffic disruption in the coming weeks. Three lanes in each direction could be restored, with a 50mph limit, if Operation Brock is assessed as unlikely to be required in the following weeks.Drivers are advised that sections of the M20 will be closed this weekend for the final work to take place, signed diversions will be in place. From Monday drivers will need to follow the different layout on the M20 from just north of Junction 8 (for Leeds) to Junction 9 (Ashford).
Full information is available on gov website here: Operation BROCK: ready for action
Borough Green and Long Mill Ward community survey
I believe that democracy does not end with a vote every 4 years. We have technology to allow members of our community express their views on the current situation within our ward and what initiatives and actions their representatives should take. People’s voice matters all the time.
Please find spare 5 minutes to fill this anonymous, short survey and express your concerns and views.
After processing all the data will be made public and passed to local authorities and Parish Councils.
Link to survey: Borough Green and Long Mill Ward community survey
Thank you in advance, Bartosz Wlodarczyk
New waste, recycling & street cleaning service provider for Tonbridge and Malling
Conflict of generations
Few years back child psychologist told me something like “there are no difficult kids, but difficult adults”. I think it’s a great sentence that shows how we should deal with problems concerning our kids.
Teachers also often complain about difficult teenagers. We have shifted proportions – schools are spending more time on raising our kids instead teaching them. Why? Because us, parents, expect that schools will do everything for us. So teachers to deliver their main purpose which is teaching first need to get order in the classroom. Lack of order is not their fault – it’s ours. How can we deal with this problem? We have to try to understand adolescent teenagers and their needs, which will allow to find a common thread of understanding. Let’s try to look at the world through the eyes of a young person and take an attitude of openness, let’s treat them seriously. We need to be ready to have open conversations with them, anywhere, regardless the circumstances, always. We need to find time for our kids as they need us. If we won’t make that time our kids will find it somewhere else with somebody else, not necessary doing good things.
I think that discipline is of course needed, but authoritarianism won’t help us. Teens will be breaking the rules and codes and they will continue to do so. We all have been there, we all were teenagers – adolescence is the time when we search for our identity, the time of contestation of authorities, the time of idealism – we think that everything will be fine in our life. We were defining our “I”. Let’s help our kids to go through this process, to understand themselves.
But how we are behaving to get our kids disciplined? Probably only by using bans and orders. We often talk to the child the way we would not expect them to talk to us. That way we are losing connection with them…sometimes for good. Very often bad behaviour is the way our child manifests that he feels rejected, misunderstood and unloved, to get more attention from us – parents. We need to learn to admit in front of them that we are making mistakes, that we are not perfect. Let’s praise them, let’s encourage them to do something good for our community, let’s make them feel loved and needed!
With warmer months just around the corner, spring cleaning isn’t far away. Whether you want to clear some of the winter clutter or just feel like a change in scenery is needed, big cleaning operation can make it happen. Soon it will be the perfect time to clean out your garage, basement or garden. With all of the changes that you will be making, maybe it is a good idea to join our efforts and clean our beautiful village together as we did last year?
Because of the higher amount of identity theft cases, prevention is really critical. Many victims are not even aware that they have been targeted until months after the crime has happened. You might be applying for a re-mortgage and discover that your great credit score has been ruined by a criminal. This time lag gives the scammer a head start at spending all of your hard-earned money. Be vigilant about protecting your personal information, don’t reply to any suspicious emails or click any links, keep your computer secure and always destroy paper statements or bills – never throw them away as one piece of paper.
Conservatives February Newsletter
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Christmas and New Year’s wishes.
Borough Green Library
KCC plans to reduce number of working hours in most of the Libraries around Kent. This also includes Borough Green Library as Council is planning to cut 12 out of 40 leaving our library open for 28 hours per week if they decide to go ahead with this plan.
Plans to convert M26 to lorry park.
As a resident of Borough Green and local councillor I am completely devastated by the information about plans of converting M26 into lorry park in case of no deal Brexit.
Last week I’ve met with Sir Michael Fallon and we spoke about our local issues.
We had a short conversation about the Junction 5 Slip Road and discussed both the problems and possible solutions. Then afterwards we exchanged couple of emails including M26 issue.
As he admitted he was shocked with this news as this problem will also hit his constituency.
The plan, which was not disclosed to local councillors or MP’s and kept secret by Secretary of State for Transport Chris Grayling until hours before work began on Wednesday, will see the M26 motorway closed overnight up to Christmas while the roadworks take place.
This is terrible news especially for people living in Borough Green and surrounding area. We are already suffering from lack of Junction 5 Slip Road and our village has incredible high volume of traffic throughout A25 corridor.
I think people do not realise yet that we might end up with the biggest lorry car park in Europe and possibly UK Border Agency next to our homes, gardens and schools.
I do understand frustration of my MP Tom Tugendhat. We are working together and campaign for junction 5 slip road as Tom was very keen to it. He wrote to Secretary of Transport in this matter and supported our community. Now it is clear to me that possible closing of M26 for Brexit lorry stacking is the real reason why they have dropped the J5 slip discussion with him and kept their plans in secret until last Wednesday. In my opinion this is low blow and only shows how poor service provides us our Secretary of Transport Chris Grayling who I am urging to reverse his premature decision as he will completely destroy people’s life in this area.
Imagine all the lorries coming from Hastings and Tunbridge Wells A21 plus from Westerham A25, both towards the Sevenoaks and Bessel Green.
Lorries cannot exit off these roads onto the M26 eastbound towards Maidstone as there is no slip road!
So how would they join the lorry park? All the traffic will end up in our villages on A25.
We are only small village which now must fight not only with local plans of mass housing called Borough Green Garden City but also face the fact that M26 might be transformed to UK’s biggest lorry park. The irony of the situation in which we find ourselves today should be evident for all to see.
Ever wondered how your Council Tax is spent by Tonbridge and Malling Borough Council? Here is the answer:
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Please have a look at latest Borough Green Autumn newsletter.
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My name is Bartosz Wlodarczyk and I’m Borough Green Councillor. I do care about the future of our beautiful village and people living here.
I am the member of:
*Basted Mill Public Open Space Committee
*The Parish Partnership Panel Committee
*Joint Parish Councils Transport Consultative Group Committee
*Borough Green Traffic Action Group
*Kent County Council Volunteer Support Warden for Seal
*Governor at Grange Park School, Wrotham